They all looked the same to me — these green apples. But for some reason, my grandma would pick them and put them in brown paper sacks and write their names in bold magic marker. “So these are named Ivy? Just like my mother?” She smiled back at me. “They’re for your mother. She likes the sour ones.” “How do you know which ones are sour?” I asked. “I go to the tree.” I shook my head yes and folded the paper sack three times, just like my mother would do with my sack lunch when I started school. She started making them for me after the first day of first grade. The school lunch lady tried to make me eat a pickle. I never ate a school lunch again. My mother knew me. I carried my sack.
We’re all so different. At first glance, you don’t see it. Most unfortunately, don’t even bother to look. And I get it. It can be exhausting. We are bombarded daily with face after face of the so-called-truth. But standing in this sea of green, I hear her, so easily, so simply, “go to the tree.” The source. The truth is always there. Some will try to disguise it with repetition, but it’s there.
My mother didn’t look at all like Grandma Elsie, no she was full-on Grandpa Rueben. My mother was like the purple irises that grow along the road of my morning walk. So straight and tall. Such purpose in the long stem, and green fitted leaves. Just up the hill, there are few chubby little yellow ones, still with a bit of dirt from where they struggled through the earth, that’s my Grandma Elsie. Equally lovely. I smile as I pass because I saw the truth about them. And it was beautiful. It is beautiful.
Paperclipped to one of my books, my mom left for me the poem that begins…”Do not stand by my grave, and weep. I am not there…” Oh, how I know this to be true. She walks with me daily. They both do. Appearing on canvas and page. Coloring the side of the road. Fluttering by the blooms of spring. Ruffled around my neck. Beating in my heart. Growing in the trees. I know them. Still.