I didn’t correct her when she thought it was a hat — the bird atop the woman’s head. While it wasn’t a fascinator, it was fascinating, so when she said she would wear it too, I smiled and agreed. 

For what was to be gained if I said, “But it’s a real bird…” While in my imagination it was, it was still just a painting. There for all to imagine. And in her mind, it was a hat. So I let it be a hat. 

My cousin Dawn used to make up songs in the bathroom when she was a little girl. Neither self conscious of her singing, nor… well, her bathroom routine. One went, “And pony, and pony…” Only those two words, but over and over. It’s surprising how easily they stuck in my head. Annoyed, I told her to stop. Again and Again. It was my grandfather who told me, not her, to stop. “But it’s not even a real song,” I pleaded. “It is to her,” he said. And the argument was finished, but not the song. I suppose that’s why I still sing it today.

We have a real need to be right all the time. I’m just as guilty as the next person. I’m trying to get better. We can all enjoy things in our own way. Sometimes, you just have to let it be a hat.